If you’re married you’ve probably shared that joke with you your partner. You know, when you jokingly comment about how wonderful it would be to have separate beds. You both laugh at the ridiculousness of it, but deep down you both know - separate beds might just be a wonderful idea.
In fact, not too long ago in the 20th century having separate beds was actually a sign of being super rich and fancy. It was a luxury to be able to stretch out in your own bed with all your own covers and get a superb night’s sleep. So why is it such a no-no these days?
Especially when your partner has any of these awful sleeping habits:
In nearly every relationship there is a star fish. That person who, no matter how often you tell them not to, will stretch out across the bed thus preventing you from getting comfy enough to sleep. Just imagine waking up at 3am to find yourself curled into a tiny corner of mattress while your partner is superbly comfy across 90% of your double bed.
It’s thought that snoring is one of the leading factors in divorce. And who can blame people. There is nothing worse than listening to partner blissfully snore away while you lie awake listening to them. Or worse, they stop snoring for a minute and you think they’ve stopped breathing and you panic only for them to snore again. Then there’s the fact that once you do actually get to sleep next to a snorer there’s every chance you’ll get abruptly awoken by a nasty snore.
Perhaps the worst of all the bedroom sins, though, is what’s known as a cover hog. One of the greatest pleasures in life is to crawl into a cosy bed on a cold night and snuggle into the duvet. That is unless you’re married to a cover hog. Instead you’re more likely to crawl into bed and have to fight your partner for a small corner of covers. Then there’s the fact you’re liable to wake up in the middle of the night coverless and frozen while your partner is in a fabulous cocoon of cover-warmth.
So are separate beds the answer?
It is incredibly important for people to get 6-8 hours of good quality sleep a night. Lack of sleep means our brains and bodies don’t get enough time to recharge so our day-to-day activities such as work or education will suffer. Sleep deprivation can also lead to some serious illnesses and it’s likely that you’ll find yourself grumpier and prone to more arguments in the relationship.
If your partner is preventing you getting a good night’s sleep every night then separate beds could be a legitimate answer to your problems. You see, separate beds isn’t the sign of divorce or a lack of love in the relationship. In fact it might actually help save it!
Of course, separate beds isn’t ideal for everyone, but that doesn’t mean there’s no answer to your problems. Snorers should seek medical advice for their problem. Lifestyle choices such as weight loss and avoiding alcohol can really help with snoring. If that isn’t helping perhaps sleeping with headphones or ear plugs in could help you get a more peaceful sleep.
In the case of a rude partner who takes all the covers or bed space, perhaps you just need a larger bed. Upgrade to a super king size bed and duvet. You’ll find a great choice online at bigbrandbeds.co.uk. Also add extra covers to your bed – you’re sure to see an improvement in your sleep quality.
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